I recently had a reader comment on my What Not To Say post, posing the following question. . .
"When are you close enough or when are you not close enough to someone to ask/to comment/...about their difficulties or their loss. Unless it's crystal clear to me, if the person themselve did not let me know about their difficulty or loss, I normally do not comment. And I don't know if I am acting correctly...I am a very reserved person and it really hurts me when people comment, even when they celebrate things for me if I don't feel them close. I don't like that they know and even less that they feel close enough to share with me. Am I a weirdo?... Could you share your experience on this topic? I would like to learn."
Before I attempt to tackle this question, I thought I would open up the floor. What do you think?
What is your opinion on this sensitive topic(s)?
At what point are you close enough to someone to discuss or bring up these issues?
How do you decide what to say & when, or when to hold your tongue?